Regrets & Lessons Learned
“And he went outside and wept bitterly.”
Luke 22:62 (NIV)
To regret is human; if we’re honest, we all have regrets that come from mistakes or missed opportunities. What purpose, if any, is there to revisit our choices, and what can we learn by reflecting on our heartaches that leave us with “what if” questions? Personally, my deepest regrets relate to those I love. I hope you’ll read on and consider the value of processing regrets and finding the path for a closer relationship with someone afterwards, or maybe even discover healing for yourself.
The gospel writings of Jesus’s death teach us a great deal about how we journey through regrets. With Easter around the corner, these stories are timely to read. Looking at a few characters within the story leading up to Jesus’s death gives a lesson worth pondering.
Outcomes of our decisions vary, whether they are intentional or foolish, or even result from a sinful act. We may not prevent every action that leads us to regret; however, how we respond and process our emotions can be a catalyst for personal growth and better relationships. For instance, Judas threw away the money he was paid and then hung himself (Matthew 27:3-5.) Peter, however, deeply regretted his denial of Jesus and wept bitterly (Luke 22:61,62.) He ran towards Jesus, and Peter’s transformation helped change the world, by playing a major role in the early church.
The distinction between Judas and Peter is the action taken after awareness of their decisions. Peter chose the better way: being deeply distressed over his actions, he wept and spent the rest of his life wholeheartedly serving God’s kingdom. Judas ran from Jesus instead of seeking forgiveness. Sadly, he didn't understand the depth of the grace God so lovingly offers when true repentance is sought. Radical forgiveness is offered through the death of Christ for each of us.
Another example that implies two of Jesus’s followers dismissed him while he was alive is found in the stories of Joseph of Arimathea and Nicodemus. Both were Jewish Pharisees and leaders who followed Jesus secretly but bravely cared for His body after the crucifixion. (John 19:38-42.) History tells us Joseph of Arimathea even became a missionary to share the good news of Jesus throughout England; therefore, maybe he regretted his fear of the Jewish leaders?
Time and my relationship with our heavenly Father have taught me valuable lessons about regret. This is one of the beautiful aspects about aging. (Trust me there are very few!) To process our regrets, pondering how they may have impacted our lives and those we love, may sound like something to dread: in reality, the practice can bring about beauty and opportunity for lessons worth learning.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic.
Would you pray this with me?
Dear Lord,
Thank you for the grace you so abundantly give to us. Your loving kindness is intended to gently guide us through our missteps and mistakes. Would you guide us through Your Holy Spirit, and help us to recall any regrets you desire we heal and become more like Peter. In Jesus name, Amen.
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